Comments on: Should I Contact My Sons Father? http://www.themedicalcontacts.com/medical-contact-info/should-i-contact-my-sons-father Fri, 03 Feb 2012 06:45:59 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: kelannde http://www.themedicalcontacts.com/medical-contact-info/should-i-contact-my-sons-father/comment-page-1#comment-2849 kelannde Fri, 19 Mar 2010 05:53:59 +0000 http://www.themedicalcontacts.com/medical-contact-info/should-i-contact-my-sons-father#comment-2849 No. Your son's father is and was an adult when all of this started. If he had wanted to establish and maintain contact with your son, he could have chosen to do so instead of allowing his wife to "forbid" it. You son's father made a choice, and has continued to make that choice. It's your son's turn to choose. My son is 17, and is in much the same situation. He also has no interest in meeting the man who "made" him, and then chose to not have a relationship with him for the past 17+ years. I will never (ever) encourage him to contact his biological father. I agree with your son - can't miss what you never had. My 19-year-old daughter contacted him last year, only to have her heart broken. He spoke to her twice, promised to call and/or visit, and simply stopped taking her calls after the second conversation. I'm a firm beleiver that people don't change. You son's father made his choice. Now let your son make his.<br><b>References : </b><br> No.

Your son’s father is and was an adult when all of this started. If he had wanted to establish and maintain contact with your son, he could have chosen to do so instead of allowing his wife to "forbid" it.

You son’s father made a choice, and has continued to make that choice.

It’s your son’s turn to choose.

My son is 17, and is in much the same situation. He also has no interest in meeting the man who "made" him, and then chose to not have a relationship with him for the past 17+ years. I will never (ever) encourage him to contact his biological father. I agree with your son – can’t miss what you never had.

My 19-year-old daughter contacted him last year, only to have her heart broken. He spoke to her twice, promised to call and/or visit, and simply stopped taking her calls after the second conversation.

I’m a firm beleiver that people don’t change. You son’s father made his choice. Now let your son make his.
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]]> By: ladee007 http://www.themedicalcontacts.com/medical-contact-info/should-i-contact-my-sons-father/comment-page-1#comment-2848 ladee007 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 05:15:59 +0000 http://www.themedicalcontacts.com/medical-contact-info/should-i-contact-my-sons-father#comment-2848 no, i grew up with out a dad. it is true...can't miss something you never had. even if he is an adult now his father should be the one to reach out to him......not the other way around.<br><b>References : </b><br> no, i grew up with out a dad. it is true…can’t miss something you never had. even if he is an adult now his father should be the one to reach out to him……not the other way around.
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]]> By: stephh http://www.themedicalcontacts.com/medical-contact-info/should-i-contact-my-sons-father/comment-page-1#comment-2847 stephh Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:43:59 +0000 http://www.themedicalcontacts.com/medical-contact-info/should-i-contact-my-sons-father#comment-2847 You can't force your son to do something if he doesn't want to do. In his eyes, he probably sees it as if he meant that much to his dad, Dad would have tried harder. Kudos to him for being strong. Just make sure he knows that if he ever changes his mind, you could make it possible to see him.<br><b>References : </b><br> You can’t force your son to do something if he doesn’t want to do. In his eyes, he probably sees it as if he meant that much to his dad, Dad would have tried harder. Kudos to him for being strong.

Just make sure he knows that if he ever changes his mind, you could make it possible to see him.
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